If They Don’t Want the Same Things, Let Them Go

Please don’t read the title of this article and think I am going to give love/ relationship advice… because I am not. I am far from a relationship expert.

But what I am about to tell you can apply to everything in life. Yes, it can still apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships, employer/employee relationships, jobs, work (I know all of those are similar), family, doctors and more.

IF THEY DON’T WANT THE SAME THINGS THEN LET THEM GO.

Really think about it…

Let’s start with friendships. Your friends are the people you surround yourself with. They should have similar goals, ideas that can compliment your own or challenge you in a positive way, similar belief system and so on. If you have friends that don’t have goals at all, have ideas that hurt your own, bring you down or ideas that are combative to your own instead of positively challenging; or if their belief system completely goes against your own whether it is spiritually, emotionally, mentally or physically, then you don’t need to be around such negativity. LET THEM GO. They are not good for you. It is time to find new friends.

Romantic relationships are next. I won’t go into too much detail because I do not want to give romantic love advice, but the same as above. If your significant other does not compliment you in a positive way, even if some ideas are different, then it is time to LET THEM GO. You cannot pair yourself with someone that will bring you down instead of support you and build you up.

Now for your work/ job/ clients/ and employee-employer relationships. If the company you work for is not continuously growing or giving back the way you think it can or should then LET THEM GO. You will find it hard to work for a dead-end company that doesn’t add to your work life. If your employer or clients do not have the same ideals for the business and are not expanding and growing the way you projected them to go then it may be time to LET THEM GO. If your employer or clients are lazy, then you cannot afford to put in all the time and effort that you do, only to stay stagnant.

Now on to your doctors or therapists… This one might seem odd but hear me out. If you have an illness, disability or health issue and your doctors and therapists don’t have the same goals for your recovery then it is time to LET THEM GO too. A woman I know has chronic and severe arthritis. In search of relief and treatment she found a new doctor recommended by her insurance. Instead of giving her steroids to treat her symptoms and help her cope from her pain, the doctor would rather put her on chemo therapy pills to stop her immune system from attacking her body, therefore causing early death instead of actually treating the real problem. Because the doctor did not have the same goals for healing her or helping her find relief, she had to let her go.

There is no point in holding on to things, people or relationships that no longer benefit you. While holding on is safe, it may actually be detrimental in the end. Especially in the case of the women with arthritis. If she didn’t let that relationship go, she might have died. You can die mentally, emotionally or spiritually if you are holding on to the wrong things. Be strong and let go of the people that no longer want the same things as you. In the end, you will find someone or another relationship (not just romantic) that will benefit your life in the long run.